Identity Change

What's your version of cigarettes?

What’s something that’s repulsive to you? Or something you just have no interest in trying?

Mine is cigarettes. It’s not just a lack of curiosity, it’s a total repulsion to the idea of even trying them. Being in a room where smokers frequent is pretty rough for me.

Some people feel the same way about soda, or other high sugar foods. They just won’t tolerate them, to the point of avoiding the types of environments where those foods are considered normal.

Other people feel that way about missing a workout. It’s P0, every day. The idea of missing a workout is absurd to the point of laughter.

You get the picture.

The point is that if you want to avoid some bad habit, the goal should be to make it as repulsive to you as cigarettes are to me. It’s not just that I don’t want to smoke a cigarette, it’s that the idea is so foreign it literally never even occurs to me why I would want to do such a thing.

And why couldn’t your bad habit be given the same revulsion? What’s stopping you? You can always choose to see yourself as a new type of person, who doesn’t do that thing. Who’s offended by it. This is a mental game you have to play with yourself. Change your identity, and you’ll change your behavior.

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